The importance of a leader

wow. it's been months since I last wrote here.

I could easily blame my tight schedule as the main reason of not being able to do so, but that would bring me back to the state of independency.

Despite my hardship trying to adjust to the new environment, I must make it a habit to update my blogs, especially this one. Since despite the humungous challange of the environment I am currently in, I would not have made it this far without the help of 7 habits. The second reason, I want to document all the things that irk me, while I am yet to be immune to the new surrounding, while my senses are in high sensitivity, before I 'get along' and get comfortable.

My current environment if infected with scarcity mentality. The entire nation seemed to be taught since little to think that there is only so much, and we must compete to be on top. They quote lack of resources (since they live on a tiny island) as the main reason. i can see now why Covey put a great emphasize on the danger of such thought/belief. It's a very devastating paradigm since it governs the way we act. This nation is losing, since they lack trust amongst themselves.

Initially I was impressed by my new boss of her ability to think quickly. But slowly my emotional bank account is depleting, since I find that I can no longer trust her. In many occasions, I witnessed duplicity, inconsistent principles, not walking the talk, ego and stealing credits when it's not due. I know 7 habits also teach us about Principle centred leadership, how we should not let any boss be our compass, but her leadership does effect my relationship and my work performance. I find it hard to find my true compass since she is still a decision maker, and I am merely the executioner. More often than not, I disagree with her decisons, but am not at the place to say so.

I must go back to the book, and re-read in order to help me get through this.

Trying time

In my 33 years of living, today would be one of those days where reminding myself to make full use of Habit 1, is the only thing that I can do in order to keep sane.

Last month, I changed my career of 10 years and uprooted my family to a new country. It's been a month; my hubby hates his new job, the kids hate their new school, teachers and friends. Sadly, I have to say the same about my new environment too.

It's easy to fall into all habits and blame everything but at the same time I cannot afford to sulk into self-condemning of making this decision. I have made my decision, considering all risks and possibilities, and I have to be responsible for its outcome; both good and bad. My biggest hurdle is to be a cheerleader to hubby & my children when things are going tough for them; while I myself need the most cheerleading and support. And I have no one but myself to turn to.

At times like this, I remind myself of Viktor Frankl. No matter how hard my obstacle see to be, they are miniscule compared to what Victor had to endure. I am using the same techniques, taking these circumstances as mere journey to take myself and my family to a higher place. It is just a matter of time before everything will fall into place. I will just have to concentrate on my circle of influence and take one day at a time, with the end in mind.